Different attitudes to sexual abuse revealed by Barnardo’s

Men have more relaxed attitudes to sexual abuse of boys by women like Emmerdale’s Maya, Barnado’s find.

Maya has been seducing teenager Joseph in ITV Yorkshire’s Emmerdale.

“This research shows that even in 2019, many people don’t recognise that sexual abuse of boys is just as serious as sexual abuse of girls. These outdated attitudes lead to boys missing out on vital support. They are much less likely than girls to be identified as victims of sexual abuse by professionals, who often don’t see them as victims.” – Barnardo’s Chief Executive Javed Khan

Men find the sexual abuse of teenage boys by women less concerning than the abuse of teenage girls by men, research by Barnardo’s shows. The national children’s charity has found that people overall have a more relaxed attitude to boys being groomed and abused by older women like in Emmerdale but that the most marked difference lay with men. In a survey conducted by YouGov*, Barnardo’s found that more than a quarter (26%) of men who were presented with a variety of scenarios that have played out in the ITV soap said they would have found them more concerning if the genders were flipped. 

Overall, one-in-five UK adults (20%) had this view and, of these, nearly two-thirds (64%) said it was because they think teenage girls are more vulnerable than teenage boys. More than a quarter (28%) thought it was every teenage boy’s dream to be with an older woman.

Barnardo’s has been advising Emmerdale on its abuse storyline which has seen schoolteacher Maya groom and abuse her pupil Jacob and has been praised for highlighting an important issue. In Monday night’s episode Maya and Jacob had sex just a few days after his 16th birthday.

ITV Yorkshire have showed Maya’s grooming of schoolboy Joseph.

“In fact, boys can be groomed by older men or older women, exploiting feelings of loneliness, their need for care and their desire to be loved before abusing them, just like Maya has done with Jacob in Emmerdale. We need to get out of the ‘Mrs Robinson’ mind-set. Abuse is abuse whether it happens to a boy or a girl or whether it’s perpetrated by a man or a woman, and it can cause long term harm, affecting attitudes to love, relationships and sex in adulthood.” – Barnardo’s Chief Executive Javed Khan

Separate research conducted by Barnardo’s last year and funded by the Home Office found that boys and young men often miss out on the support they would receive if they were girls because professionals don’t always recognise them as victims. It revealed that professionals may have difficulty in identifying and engaging boys and young men in terms of their history of abuse and trauma and that behaviour that might trigger concerns that girls are at risk is sometimes put down to ‘boys being boys’, leaving many victims without the specialist support they need.

The Children’s Commissioner estimates that more than a quarter of child sexual abuse victims are boys and, according to the Department for Education’s Children in Need census, more than a third of children on child protection plans for sexual abuse are boys. Research from the Centre of Expertise on Child Sexual Abuse shows that 15% of girls and 5% of boys experience some form of sexual abuse before the age of 16.

The charity said that the introduction of compulsory relationships and sex education in English schools next year, which it long campaigned for, will help children and young people understand abuse and unhealthy or risky situations.

The storyline has been running since late 2018 in the long running dales-based saga.

“Addressing these topics in the classroom will help keep children safe and healthy, and prepare them for challenges on and offline. We know from our specialist work on child sexual abuse across the country how important it is to teach children and young people about consent, healthy relationships, how to spot the signs of abuse and how to ask for help.” – Barnardo’s Chief Executive Javed Khan

In its most recent research, Barnardo’s polled more than 2,000 people and all respondents were asked whether they were willing to take part in the survey since it dealt with sensitive issues involving child sexual abuse.

Half were presented with a variety of abusive scenarios involving an older woman and a teenage boy exchanging text messages containing explicit images. The other half were presented with the same scenarios with the genders of the perpetrator and victim reversed. In one sample, 17% of men thought that a woman in her 30s and a 16-year-old boy exchanging text messages containing explicit images was not concerning, compared to 2% of women. In the second sample, people were presented with the same scenario involving a 16-year-old girl and a man in his 30s instead of a woman and a boy. Only 7% of men said this was not concerning.

Likewise, one-in-10 men in the first sample thought that a female teacher and her 16 year old male student having sex was not concerning, compared to just 2% of women. When the genders of the perpetrator and victim were reversed for the second sample, only 4% of men were unconcerned.

“This story is fascinating because it’s an older woman and a younger boy. We see it on social media – a lot of people are like get in there, lad, you’ve got yourself an older woman, a cougar. But it is still abuse, it is still sexual exploitation. If it was an older man to a younger girl or boy, ¬immediately people would be saying that is wrong.” – Actress Louisa Clein, who plays Maya, told the Mirror

Emmerdale has been advised on the storyline by Banardo’s.

To help Emmerdale tell the abuse storyline authentically, Barnardo’s arranged for their researchers, story team and actors – including Louisa and Joe-Warren Plant who plays Jacob – to meet experts and young men who have been supported by Barnardo’s Better Futures project. In the soap Louisa’s character Maya has used the following tactics to groom and abuse Jacob:

Targeting the victim; A groomer will identify a vulnerability within the intended victim. Children with limited supported from trusted adults and/or less involved parents are more desirable, although all young people by their very nature are potential victims.

Gaining the victim’s trust; The groomer gains their victim’s trust by working out what the child’s needs are and how to fill them. They may make the child feel understood and valued.

Filling a need; The groomer may then fill the void in the child’s needs. They may provide drink, drugs, somewhere to stay, thoughtful gifts, – but most significantly, the groomer will make the child feel loved and special.

Isolating the child; The groomer may encourage the child to sever protective contacts with family and friends and assume a protective and understanding position.

Sexualising the relationship; After the emotional attachment and trust of the child has been obtained, the groomer progressively sexualises the relationship. Desensitisation of the child may occur through talking, watching pornography and having sexual contact. The child may begin to see their relationship in more special terms.

Maintaining control; Once the sexual abuse has begun, child sex abusers use secrecy, blame and threats to manipulate the child into silence and participation. Threats may be made against the child’s family and friends. The abuser may also threaten to circulate indecent/abusive images.

Jacob has been groomed by Maya in Emmerdale.
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